10 Important Tips for Men
by Dolly Clark
The first impression is always the most important. Whether it’s online with the pictures and the profile, or offline. You can never go back and redo it so you must make sure that the first date is you at your best, most behaved, self. Here is a list for you men that can help you achieve such a goal.
Firstly, above all things, before you even step out the door, you need to take a bath and or a shower. One of the worst things you can do is show up on a date and look unshaven, dirty and smell horrible. Women naturally being cleaner will judge you on your smell and appearance. They don’t want to date someone that looks and smells like a dog, if they did they would have just dated your dog instead. It doesn’t take much time or effort to take a shower, it takes little effort to shave and it takes barely even a thought to keep your hair tidy and neat. But on top of that, there’s your breath as well. Think a woman would want to get close to someone that has breath worse then a dogs? Probably not, so don’t expect to score a good night kiss with bad breath. You can be a prince charming, but they wont see that past the bad breath, stinky odor and dirty appearance. So clean up, men. Make your lady proud!
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You should always arrive on time. Don’t ever turn up late, no matter what. To come late will give out the wrong impressions, and if its your first date that’s even worse. I know if that was me on their end, I’d assume I was stood up, and then when I see that you arrived late, I’d think you didn’t care much about me or my feelings. Always leave early and show up early, not TOO early, but enough to show you WILL be there for her when she needs you to be. Never be late guys.
Giving her a thoughtful gift can easily seal the deal with a date. Not because they like items and stuff, but because of the thought you put into it. Maybe a necklace with a dolphin on it because she loves dolphins or something of the like. You should know something about the woman before you date her, perhaps by e-mail or phone or perhaps one of her friends, so use your head and resources and get or even make her something that you’ll be sure that she will love. Don’t do anything over the top or too much, just enough to make her smile and get yourself some added brownie points. Brownie points are good, my friend.
Now, this one should really be a no brainer, but always be a gentleman to your lady. Hold the door for her, offer your over shirt if shes cold, pull out the chair and always always always be polite to her, whether in public or not. Women LOVE feeling special, so make yours feel special. And no this doesn’t mean gel your hair back, wear a tux to a casual date and keep a rose between your teeth, but just use your head guys and treat her nicely, treat her as if you actually love her.
Women love compliments, compliments are universal and are worth giving and receiving, so I guess it comes to no surprise that women love it. So plan it out if you need: You first see her, compliment her dress and if she isn’t weirded out by these things, compliment how great she smells. Keep the compliments coming, not over and over but every so often, and make sure they fit, you wouldn’t want to compliment her shoes if shes wearing sandals, if you know what I mean. Make her feel beautiful, and make her feel unique. If you can give her compliments when her past dates never did, then to her, you’ll be a keeper. But once again, don’t over due it fellas. Feeling too much like a princess can freak her out.
Everyone loves to be heard. And on top of that, everyone loves someone that’s interested. What I’m saying here is, listen to what she has to say, and ask questions about what shes saying. And I mean really listen, not pretend. Women seem to be more attracted to men who actually hear them, and then even more so when this guy can ask relevant questions that make sense to what they were saying. Don’t make her feel like shes talking to a robot.
Always prepare for conversations. You don’t want awkward silences, so avoid them. Nothings fun or romantic about chewing awkardly staring at each other with nothing to talk about. You may think it’s easy to get a conversation going, but you’re wrong. You will find yourself wishing you listened to this. So save yourself the trouble and prepare. And lay off the past dates and girlfriend stories. You want to make HER feel special, can’t do that while talking about past loves.
Be a man, dig deep into that pocket and pay for the date! It’s like one of those dating rules that make no sense, only this one makes sense! The man always pays for the lady. You need to show that not only are you in control here, but you got things together and are reliable. Chivalry is what you would call that action, and that’s one of many things that have long since been forgotten in this day and age of technology. If the lady offers to pay though, you can say ‘No no let me do it’ at least once, if she accepts you’re payment, then she was just trying to be nice and really wanted you to pay it, which is a good thing that you said it then, if she still insists, don’t turn this into a brawl to see who pays, and let her, then thank her and tell her YOU will pay for the next date. Which is implying another date, if she accepts, then you just scored yourself another date with her.
This one is a rather personal one. Kissing your date goodnight can be good or bad. It’s also a pretty sore subject because of all the variables that can happen. Firstly, your date may not think a kiss is appropriate the first date. Some prefer a kiss after the first date, ending it on a great note. However it may end up looking bad if you tried to kiss her and she was the kind that don’t like it the first date. But then if you don’t try there’s a chance she wanted one and will be disappointed that you didn’t even try. So what I would suggest doing is giving her a nice hug then pull away just a bit, but still have you arms on her and ask if she’d like a kiss. Yeah, asking may sound weird at the moment, but during the actual situation it may end up being the best thing you can do at that time. If she says yes, score! If she says no though, then smile and nod and say maybe next time and let her in her house with a good night. And I believe the woman may like the fact you asked like that over just making the move.
If you tell her you will call her, you better do it, bub. If you want to see her again and want to see her again, tell her you’ll call her, then do it. And you be the one to call, don’t make her call. Once again its one of those ‘being in charge’ and ‘being reliable’ things women love. Be a man and call her, and call her if you say you will. It’s heartless to say you will but never do.
There you guys go! Good luck!
